What to do with your loved one's clothes?
Following the death of a loved one there is often the difficult question of "what should we do with their clothing?". This can be very stressful because of the memories attached to clothing and possessions.
Here is a method I heard about years ago from someone who completed it.
Invite a friend to assist you, someone you are comfortable being emotional around. Bring every article of clothing, and every possession, into the living area.
Separate the items into 1 of 3 piles:
* things you definitely want to keep in 1 pile
* things you definitely want to give away, sell, or discard in another pile
* things you are not sure about yet in another pile
After each item has been decided upon, put away the items you definitely want to keep. Immediately discard the items you decided upon. Put away the items you are not sure about yet.
In a month, invite the same person to assist you again. Again, divide the items into the 3 separate piles mentioned above. Again, put away the items you want to keep and the pile of items you are not sure about. Discard the give away pile immediately.
Do this routine 3 times. It can lead to keeping what you really want and releasing those things that need to be removed from the house.
This is one way to realize this is YOUR choice...in YOUR time...in a way that is best for YOU. Do not allow others to push you or shame you into making decisions that would be regretted later. Items can always be boxed and removed from sight until the time is right for YOU.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"