"Need of Mourning #2: Embrace the Pain of the Loss"
This need requires that we embrace the pain of our loss, something we naturally do not want to do.
It is easier to avoid, repress, or push away the pain of grief than it is to confront it.
However, by embracing your grief you will learn to "reconcile" yourself to it. To RECONCILE means "to make peace with it".
In grief work there is a word used that I do not feel comfortable with. I hear others use the word "CLOSURE" relating to a loss. To me, "CLOSURE" means I put something away, close a door, and never see it again. Grief is not like that!
I suggest that instead of trying to find "CLOSURE" we actually get "CLOSER" to our grief. Let's step toward our grief instead of trying to avoid it.
I invite each of you to step toward your grief in this session. In response to this article I am asking you to reply and express the loss, or losses, that you are living with.
Who died? Please list their name, their date of death, and cause of death. By doing this, you are taking a step CLOSER to your grief so we can proceed to soften the pain.
Date of death?
Your answers to these 3 questions will honor your loved one, will give others courage to express their pain, and will take us a step closer to finding peace in the pain.
Thank you for sharing this information. You are not alone...this is a place to support one another.
Bob Willis , author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"