normal responses to grief (cont)
* feelings of intense anger at the loved one for leaving.
* feeling abandoned by the loved one. We must realize that relationships end before we are through with them.
* feeling a need to protect others by not talking about the loss. This is usually to protect children. In reality, the best thing to do is talk with them about memories.
* needing to tell, retell, and remember stories of the loved one and the experience of their death. The more we tell the story the more real it becomes.
* mood changes over the slightest things, having some good days and some bad days. Actually we have good moments and bad moments throughout the day.
* tears at UNEXPECTED times. You do not want to cry in the grocery store...or while driving...or while enjoying a pretty day...but you will. Memories can sneak up on us and bring tears...anywhere. No need to apologize...this is very common.
These are normal, or typical, responses to grief. There are others but this list can serve as a reminder that many areas of life have changed since the loss.
Give yourself permission to be normal.
Tomorrow we begin to look at "secondary losses" as a result of one major loss. Thank you for following and sharing this information.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"