This post is longer, is true, and helps explain death to a child. I have been asked to post it again. Please share as you wish.
A fatal heart attack had suddenly removed a man from the family circle. A few days after his funeral I met with the family for a time of remembrance. His daughter-in-law shared this with me.
Her 4 year old son asked "Where is grandpa now?". She told him "Grandpa is in Heaven now". The little boy smiled big and quietly went to bed.
The next morning the family drove to the cemetery to see the grave. The young boy ran to the grave and saw it covered with flowers. He turned to his mom and asked, "Mommy, is THIS Heaven?".
That night as she put her son to bed, she removed a candy bar from her pocket.
She tore open the wrapper, gave him some candy, and said "Let's talk about grandpa. What do you remember about grandpa?".
He told how grandpa had taken him fishing, they played ball, they went to the zoo together, grandpa had fixed his toys, and many other special memories.
When he finished the memories, and they finished the candy bar, mom held him very close. She said "Honey, grandpa is a lot like this candy bar. That good and delicious part of grandpa, the memories you just told me about...that is the part of grandpa that has gone to Heaven. We can always talk about those good memories of grandpa."
Then she held up the wrapper of the candy bar and said "This is the part of grandpa we buried under those flowers at his grave...just grandpa's WRAPPER!"
The little boy quickly understood that we lose the physical part of people, but we can always talk about our sweet memories of them.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"