In our death defying society we use various terms to speak of death without actually saying the word. We talk of someone who "passed on", "expired", or "went to Heaven", instead of saying the obvious..."they died!".
We speak the truth when we talk of a plant that died, or of a pet that died. But for some reason it is more difficult to use that word when a person dies. Perhaps it is an attempt to avoid the reality of the event.
It helps to have open and frank conversations about feelings after a death.
When we mention that we lost our job, or lost our house, or lost our car...someone will ask "What happened?". A very appropriate and healing response after someone shares their loved one died would be to ask "What happened?". We can then allow them to share their story of loss and the feelings attached.
I want to offer you the opportunity to share about your loved one and your grief experience. You are welcome to give as much detail as you wish in response to this post. You can share stories, or photos, to honor the life of your loved one. I suspect there will be several who can relate to your pain and offer support for your journey.
So, I will ask you...
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"