"Can you tell a good story?" The art of storytelling originated with visual stories, such as cave drawings, and then shifted to oral traditions. Stories were passed down from generation to generation by word of mouth. Then they developed into the written, typed, and printed versions.
A good storyteller listens well, is authentic, and genuine. They are also motivated to capture the moments and relate the emotions to others. Our world, and our culture, needs... good storytellers.
Do you realize your grief journey is a story to be told? It would be very helpful to put words to your grief, to develop the story and honor your loved one.
Begin with early memories, their background and the life events that formed their journey. Describe how they were influenced by those around them. What environment shaped their early life? What were the elements of their personality that stand out? Can you use descriptive words to tell how they touched the lives of those around them?
If possible, gather photos of your loved one to piece together their story. Use words and stories from others to describe their life and influence. Insert dates and events into the story to develop the timeline.
Your story does not need to be published. It becomes a treasure to you and others because the story is a testament that they lived and they loved. It is very therapeutic to write these stories, to remember and reflect upon their impact upon others.
You may compile several short stories, your memories of events, and add to the collection over time. Expect laughter and tears during the process. You may find it to be a valuable process in mourning.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: the CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"