"A Mourning Moment" By bob willis

Loss of concentration

Several years ago I was driving to lead a grief support group not far from my home. Near the location, I stopped for a red traffic light. As I completed my stop I was suddenly hit from behind by another car. When I came to a stop and realized what had happened, I walked back to the car that had hit me.
As I approached the car, I could tell an older lady was sitting behind the steering wheel trying to unfasten her seat belt. As she opened the door I asked ...if she was OK. Her reply caught me off guard.

"I am OK. My husband died 2 weeks ago. I did not even see your car. I am so sorry."
I knew right away. Grief causes us to lose our concentration and our ability to focus. I know she was driving on "automatic pilot", not even aware of things around her.
When I lead a grief support group, I like to ask how many participants have been in an auto accident since their loved one died. It is amazing to see the number of auto accidents, speeding tickets, or locking keys in the car.
It is extremely important to concentrate when driving. Keeping the focus on the road and others around you is even more important for grievers.
How about you? Have you been guilty of driving "without a brain in the car"? It IS possible, and I think we have all done it at some point.
CONCENTRATE!! BE INTENTIONAL...BE SAFE.🙏😊💕💕💕
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"