Please and Thank you
Our parents probably taught us to have good manners as a child. Perhaps we were taught to say PLEASE and THANK YOU from an early age. We were blessed if those words became part of our public and private vocabulary.
I have thought of how those basic words of polite manners can be so helpful following the death of a loved one.
It is a different and unusual setting, but I believe there is a place in grief for PLEASE and THANK YOU.
"PLEASE tell me your memories of my loved one. PLEASE say their name. PLEASE tell me about times you heard them laugh. PLEASE do not walk out of my life. PLEASE help me remember them. PLEASE assure me they will never be forgotten."
"THANK YOU for being with me during this time of grief. THANK YOU for allowing me to laugh and cry. THANK YOU for letting me sit still, or roam around. THANK YOU for being near during my sad times. THANK YOU for accepting the fact that I cannot focus on life right now."
PLEASE and THANK YOU can be valuable words during the time of grief. Let's practice using them. Let's be intentional in saying them.
PLEASE and THANK YOU.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
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