Waves of emotions
I love to walk along a beach early in the morning. There is something special about watching the sunrise over the water while searching for the beautiful shells that washed up overnight.
There is a description of grief that comes to mind when I think of the ocean. Picture this in your mind: Wade into the ocean until the water is a little more than waist deep; turn and face the beach; get your feet settled into the sand until you are stabilized; now close your eyes.
You can hear the roar of the waves; feel the warm wind blowing across your face; you can smell the salt water and even taste the salt on your lips.
Then it happens!! Because your eyes were closed you did not see the huge wave that hit you from behind. It knocks you over because your feet are just in sand. About the time you get your balance, another wave hits you, then another one, and the waves are constantly beating upon you. It is almost impossible to stand because of the waves and the sand below you.
This is an accurate picture of life after loss. The sand below our feet does not provide a firm footing. Waves of emotions and memories can surpise us and almost knock us over. This can happen time after time.
This experience is normal and can be expected. As time goes by, we are still in sand and waves of grief can still overwhelm us. But the waves are not as powerful and surprising as we get closer to "the shore." We learn to brace ourselves for the waves in this ocean of grief.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"