Following the loss of a loved one it is often very difficult to "re-dream". Our dreams for the future can end when our loved one dies because they were part of those dreams. The loss of your dream is a secondary loss and can be very painful.
It will be impossible to physically include your loved one in your dreams. But, you can include their presence in your plans. You might consider completing a plan that you shared together. Carry a photo of them on you...r trip or journey. Make a point to include them. You should expect tears, but also a sense of their presence with you.
I have a large white envelope in my work room. The only word written on it, front and back in large letters, is the word "SEEDS". These are ideas for future projects, often only a sketch, others are more complete writings. But it contains things I plan to complete someday.
Let me encourage you to begin a "SEED" envelope. This can begin the place to dream again. The envelope can also include ways to include and honor your loved one in the plans.
Benjamin Franklin said, "If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail". Start to dream again, start small, write your dreams, plan to include their memory and presence.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
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