Loss of Security
Grief and loss can be very complicated. There are no "cookie cutter grievers" where everyone is just alike. But, the loss of security is very common.
PHYSICAL SECURITY involves having someone's presence and protection. It is the feeling of having a personal "bodyguard". We feel safer when this person is with us...and we feel vulnerable without them.
FINANCIAL SECURITY is the assurance of having finances and assets to be comfortable in life. If the "bread winner" gets sick or dies, financial hardships and concerns can become very real.
EMOTIONAL SECURITY is having a safe person we can share anything with. This can be the person who "hears our heart", they know our secrets and love us anyway. We feel safe sharing with this person, because they do not judge or belittle us.
Please be aware that feeling losses in these areas are very NORMAL. Part of traveling a journey is the ability to make necessary adjustments to assure progress. These adjustments and changes may occur in the PHYSICAL, FINANCIAL, or EMOTIONAL areas of life.
These changes are difficult. Give yourself permission to struggle at times. Reach out for help. Allow yourself to have some good moments and some not so good moments along your journey.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"