Hindsight is 20/20
"Hindsight is 20/20...it is easy to know the right thing to do after something has happened."
If you were the caregiver for a loved one, you realize how difficult that can be. Caregiving is non-stop, with never a chance to call "time-out". So we do the best we can at the time.
Reviewing a relationship in our mind is very common following a death. We may think of things that were said or done that hurt deeply. But, that is hindsight, looking back. Remember, hindsight is 20/20...very clear sight as we look backward. But we cannot live in the past. We can look back, and we should, but we are not going that direction. We must focus on the present and the future.
Have you ever noticed the size of a front windshield in our auto compared to the rear view mirror? We have a large window to look FORWARD, and a small area to look BACKWARD. We glance at what is behind us and learn from it...but our focus must look forward.
Even in the grief journey, we know what has helped us and what has hurt us. We should now apply that insight into our present and our future.
Our past can prepare us to help others during their time of loss. Draw from your experience. Have patience and compassion...because you have been there.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"