Go to person
For some unknown reason, a classmate told everyone he was going to beat me up after school! I was only 10 years old, and definitely not a fighter. So, after school I quickly ran home with him in hot pursuit. I recall passing my 2 older sisters and yelling for them to stop him. They did not. When I stopped on my front porch, he proceeded to punch me in the face. I do not remember anything after that. But, my main lesson was that sisters may not always be there when you need them! ( I love all 3 of them anyway)😊😉💖.
Life experiences have taught me that we always need to have a "go too person"...
someone we can depend upon for support when we need them. Throughout our lives we may develop several of these relationships. They are special people.
These "go to people" may be family members, or they may be friends who have connected on a deeper level than others. They will know what to say or not say, they will know when to be close and when to give you space.
During a time of loss, some people will not be close because they do not know what to say or do. It hurts them also. Your "go to person" is very special if they can comfort you with their presence during those days.
Also, because of your loss, you may become the "go to person" for someone else when they experience a loss. You will know what helps and what hurts. Look for those opportunities. Follow your heart.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"