Every loss is 100%
For my entire life I have heard of "expected life spans". These facts may be eye opening, maybe even surprising. But as a grief specialist, I do not find these of great interest. I meet a lot of people who feel robbed and cheated because their loved one did not reach the "expected" life span. It is OK to have those feelings and emotions.
"Today, Asian Americans live the longest (86.3 years), followed by Latinos (81.9 years), whites (78.6 years), Native Ame...ricans (77.4 years), and African Americans (75.0 years)."
If you have experienced the death of a loved one, regardless of their age...it hurts, it rips the heart out. Grief is devastating at any age.
I have stated before that every loss is 100%. No one is grieving 99%, and no one is grieving 101%. Every loss is complete.
So it is never reasonable or practical to compare losses with anyone else. Every loss deserves to be honored, recognized, and respected.
Each week my son Eric and I produce a YouTube video dealing with grief, loss, relationships, and the communication of feelings. Search YouTube for "WILLIS, WIT, and WISDOM" and subscribe.
I want to conclude with a quote from Eric regarding the length of grief. "GRIEF DOES HAVE A LIFESPAN, IT IS THE SAME AS YOURS".
Do not expect to "get over" grief. The goal is to soften the pain, but we will always be aware of the grief.
Thank you for following and sharing these articles. God bless and keep you. 🙏⚘🙏⚘🙏⚘
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"