"A mourning moment" by bob willis
My grandfather, Elijah Henry Willis, was a quiet man. I do not have a lot of memories of him, but one lesson he taught me as a boy was quite unusual.
Texas bull nettle plants are covered with stinging barbs on leaves, stalks, and pods. Their sting is fierce and definitely one to remember. I recall walking across a field with grandpa, making certain we avoided the bull nettles.
Grandpa stopped at a bull nettle plant, picked up 2 small rocks and carefully smashed the pod on the bush. Very carefully he removed the nuts from the plant and gave them to me.
It was a lot of intricate work to retrieve the nuts from the plant without being stung. But it was well worth the effort to enjoy the tasty nut, similar to a pecan. A great memory and lesson between a boy and his grandpa.
Do you have one of those special lessons from your loved one who died? Is there something you experienced with them that is a unique memory?
We lose people physically, but emotionally and spiritually we never lose them. It is very healthy and therapeutic to reflect upon those lessons and memories.
Think back over your relationship with them, looking for that "hidden jewel" of a memory. It may not be important to anyone else, but it is definitely a captured "moment in time" for you. Cherish that memory, and the lesson.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"
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