YOU NEED TO BE SELFISH! That is my advice to those in grief. The physical and emotional load can be unbearable at times, and self care is a skill that must be learned. Please allow me to make a few suggestions:
BE SELFISH WITH YOUR TIME. Each person has 1440 minutes in a day. Do you think you can set aside 20 or 30 of those minutes to spend time with YOU? If you do not schedule time for your self care, you will get to the end of another exhausting day wond...ering where your time went. Make an appointment with YOURSELF!
BE SELFISH WITH YOUR ENERGY. Grief can drain your physical and emotional energy. Patterns of losing sleep, lack of focus and concentration, poor eating and sleeping, and the weight of grief, can rob energy from even the strongest person.
BE SELFISH WITH YOUR PRIORITIES. It is important for grievers to learn how to say "NO". If we do not decide what is important and necessary, we open the door for others to set our schedule. Decide how you want to spend your precious time and energy. Seek those things that bring peace and comfort.
So, for awhile, be selfish. The most important person in charge of your life is YOU. Look closely at your TIME, your ENERGY, and your PRIORITIES. Trust your heart...you will do the right things.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"