"A Mourning Moment" By Bob Willis

Someone to Talk to

My friend Ruth Ann was the Volunteer Coordinator for the hospice I worked with for 16 years. Part of her role was to visit the home of a patient to determine the need for a volunteer to bring support and encouragement.

On one particular visit she was sitting in the front living area meeting with a patient about needs he might have for a volunteer. Their conversation was continually interrupted by family members walking in and out of the room. There was constant activity.

Finally the patient leaned forward to Ruth Ann and said, "I just need someone to talk to"! There was a constant stream of people in and out of the room, walking within arms reach of the patient...and he "just needed someone to talk to". Perhaps we should each slow down and look around us. Is there someone who needs our attention? Could we be overlooking someone who just needs "someone to talk to"?  Being overlooked and ignored can deepen any loneliness someone may feel. This can complicate feelings of separation. 

It is valuable for us to pause our busy schedules and take time for that person who needs "someone to talk to".  It will be time well spent. After all,   we may be that person someday...needing "someone to talk to".

Bob Willis, author 
"A Guide for Grievers"