Grief is a painful journey
Have you ever hit your thumb with a hammer? Remember how it hurt for a split second, then went numb? In a short time the feeling returned and it was as if you could feel your heartbeat in your thumb! As the numbness wore off the pain increased.
Grief pain is a lot like that. It is very normal to have a sudden shock at the news of a death. Then there can be a period of numbness. This will be different for each person. The numbness may last for hours, days,... or longer.
You may feel out of place, like you exist in a dream world. You may hear words being spoken but cannot understand their meaning. It is as if you are a stranger, not even connected to the events around you. These are very normal responses to loss.
This can be a very painful time.
In fact, it may seem you have pain with each heartbeat. The pain can soften over time IF the time is used to intentionally express these feelings of grief.
There will always be memories that bring pain like the loss just occurred. This is also normal. Find a safe and trusted friend who will allow you to talk about your pain and memories. It is through expressing our grief that allows mourning.
Grief is a painful journey, and everyone has a different threshold of pain. We will begin to cherish those moments when we notice the pain softens.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"