Make a list and check it off!
I make lists! It is especially helpful for me when my mind is full of thoughts and I am unable to focus. My list will include all the items that crowd my mind. I will list them from the most urgent to the least important.
Yes, it is a form of control. I justify this method as a way for me to control my schedule and thoughts instead of moving from one unfinished task to another.
At the end of my day I can check the items off the list that were completed. Those not completed are included on the list for the next day. This works for me, but everyone is different.
Here is the realization. When we lay down at night we must realize that we just traded a day in our lives for "something"! What did we accomplish? If we have a checklist we can see what we accomplished during that day.
If I allow grief or depression to rule my day, there will be very little accomplished. That can add to the feelings of low self worth and value. Grief can do that.
The task of making a list and checking off the items as they are completed can feel very good and give a sense of accomplishment. Perhaps the list is as simple as:
getting dressed (×)
eating healthy (×)
visiting with a friend (×). Start simple and move ahead...you can do this (×).
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"