It has been said that "the family that PLAYS together stays together". Or even, "the family that PRAYS together stays together". But I would like to suggest that "the family that MOURNS together heals together".
No doubt, the death of a loved one, the funeral, and all the transitions will create loads of stress on family members. It is my opinion that grief will bring out the best or the worst in most people. Too often, walls are built that are never take...n down. Hurtful things may be said or done that destroy trust and closeness.
But it can be different.
Here are some suggestions to consider to help families MOURN together:
* Everyone in the family will grieve differently...allow that freedom.
* Expect a range of emotions from tears to laughter.
* Encourage sharing of memories and photos.
* Some family members are comfortable visiting the gravesite, some or not.
* Some family members may attend grief support groups, some will not.
* Some family members express grief openly, some keep it private.
Accept and allow each family member to make their choices about expressing grief. Grief is a personal journey. But healthy communication of feelings can soften the grief journey.
Create opportunities for families to MOURN and express feelings together. These times will strengthen the family and allow for healing.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"