"A Mourning moment" by bob willis

normal responses to grief (cont)

* feelings of intense anger at the loved one for leaving.
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* feeling abandoned by the loved one. We must realize that relationships end before we are through with them.
* feeling a need to protect others by not talking about the loss. This is usually to protect children. In reality, the best thing to do is talk with them about memories.
* needing to tell, retell, and remember stories of the loved one and the experience of their death. The more we tell the story the more real it becomes.
* mood changes over the slightest things, having some good days and some bad days. Actually we have good moments and bad moments throughout the day.
* tears at UNEXPECTED times. You do not want to cry in the grocery store...or while driving...or while enjoying a pretty day...but you will. Memories can sneak up on us and bring tears...anywhere. No need to apologize...this is very common.

​These are normal, or typical, responses to grief. There are others but this list can serve as a reminder that many areas of life have changed since the loss.
Give yourself permission to be normal.
Tomorrow we begin to look at "secondary losses" as a result of one major loss. Thank you for following and sharing this information.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"