Truth about grief
During this pandemic I have heard one common request..."just tell us the TRUTH"! When we are raising teenagers we often say..."just tell us the TRUTH"! When someone lies to us we lose trust and confidence in them.
I want to share some words I believe to be definite TRUTH. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler co-authored books and articles together on the subject of grief. Here is a quote from these experts that I believe to be absolute TRUTH:
"The reality is that you WILL grieve forever. You WILL NOT "get over" the loss of a loved one; you WILL learn to live with it. You WILL heal, and you WILL rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You WILL be whole again, but you WILL NEVER be the same, nor should you be the same, nor would you want to be."
Perhaps you are not ready to accept everything stated in their quote. That is OK. From my experience working in the areas of grief and loss I find their statement to be TRUTH.
Give yourself permission to grieve, to mourn, to be sad. But also give yourself the opportunities to heal and rebuild your life without the physical presence of your loved one. We will never be the same because the person who made life "the same" for us is no longer here. You WILL heal, everyone is on a different schedule and on a different path, but you WILL.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"