When Grief Becomes Mourning
There are 2 questions I commonly hear following a loss. These questions are expressed out of a desire to feel better, and not being familiar with the grief process.
1). WHEN WILL I FEEL BETTER? Everyone wants to get past the pain of loss. No one likes to feel the depression and anxiety of grief. So, this is a very good question.
My answer is simple. We will feel better when our grief becomes mourning. When we express the pain within our heart and mind it becomes mourning. Grief is on the inside and often we suppress these feelings. Mourning is the expression through words, tears, or actions.
2). HOW LONG DOES GRIEF LAST? Grief does not go by a calendar. Some say grief lasts 6 months, a year, even 2 to 3 years. But there is a way to tell when we are "over grief". It is simple! Place your hand across your chest; if you feel the beat of your heart...you are not "over grief". We will be grievers for the rest of our lives, but, grief does not have to be overwhelming.
During these MOURNING MOMENT articles I share ways to express feelings, so grief can become mourning. These guides are meant to soften the pain of loss, not take grief away. No one can take grief away...it is the natural response to loss.
Thank you for following and sharing these articles. Let's attempt to put this basic grief information into the hands of someone who is feeling the pain of loss. It can make a difference in lives.
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"