Grief is NOT One Size Fits All
I saw this recently; 8+1=9, so does 6+3=9, but so does 5+4=9. So, the way you do things is not always the only way to do them. The same result can be reached with different approaches. In a journey, there can be several paths that end at the same destination.
How can this apply to grief and loss?
It's simple . . . one size does not fit all! It is sad when a griever is not allowed to share their unique journey.
We grief according to our personality (unique), other losses in our life (Unique)< and our relationship with the person who died (unique). Since all aspects of grief are unique to each person it is not appropriate to fit them into a model with others. This is why it sounds so empty when someone says "I know JUST how you feel". That is impossible. Even among family members grief will be different for each person.
Each loss has a personal story that needs to be told. Do not be afraid to be different from others, just be genuine.
Your memories are very important . . . treasury them. Whether you share them with a safe person, or write them to express the emotions, it is always best to be open and free to share the special relationship as you remember it.
Thank you for following and sharing these articles. God bless you my friends!
Bob Willis, author
"A Guide for Grievers"
"JESUS: The CRUCIFIED CAREGIVER"